Today is bittersweet and exciting all at once. It is my last day at my current job, and I will be starting my new job soon. The past three years have been such a wonderful learning experience and I’m incredibly grateful for that. I reached a point where I knew it was time to move on in my career, and so I did.
Every job has its highs and lows, and the best possible outcome is to learn from your experience and allow those lessons to shape your future. Here is what I’ve learned:
- Put yourself first. No one is going to fight for you the way you should fight for you.
- Work your ass off for what you want. Your dream won't just fall into your lap.
- Know what you deserve, and what you don't.
- Remove yourself from situations you're unhappy in.
- Believe in yourself.
This last one is a tough pill to swallow. Sure, it’s easy to brush past it and say you believe in yourself, but really… do you? Take a quick assessment of your self-esteem. Do you value yourself the way you value your friends and family? Do you talk yourself up the way you talk up your friends and family? If not, DO IT. Believe me when I say that no one will do it for you. It takes time, but believing in yourself is a powerful weapon and one that only you can give to yourself. Respect yourself, too. Respect your talents, respect your opinions, and respect the fact that you deserve other people’s respect, too. Man, that is a LOT of respect. Cue Aretha…
I am lucky to have reached a point in my life where I refuse to be unhappy. I refuse to fall victim to decisions that are made to please others rather than myself, especially when my happiness is at stake. I know what I want and what I don’t want, and what I want is to put my loved ones and myself first.
After everything is said and done, I feel SO exhilarated to move forward, and move on. I put myself first, I worked my ass off, I realized what I deserved and what I didn’t, I removed myself from the situation I was unhappy in and I believed in myself. And from all of that, I landed a dream job. Everything I want for my professional career is coming to fruition, all thanks to renewed confidence and a desire to be happy. Fancy that.
It is so easy to lose yourself trying to please others, but do yourself a favor and stop it. If you have a clear vision of your future and what that future entails, don’t let anything get in the way. Easier said than done, I know… but taking tiny, itty-bitty steps toward that goal is huge. Find the courage to choose happiness. You deserve it. And so do I.
Happy Friday! I hope everyone has a great weekend.